The Betrothing Primer

The broken marriages, the broken families … are the curse of dating. God’s ideal pattern of how a person should find their mate is based on sound scriptural principles.



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The Issue:

The Basic Truths Of Life!


The BibleEveryone that ever walked on this planet must come to terms in this life with some basic TRUTHS. These will be the basic truths that no one can argue with, if they are sane. Of course, if you believe what God says in His Own BOOK about you, then you will have no problem with accepting these basic truths.

1. The Brevity Of Life

"For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." (James 4:14b) Our life is brief! like a vapor, or like smoke. "Is there not an appointed time to man upon earth? are not his days also like the days of an hireling?" (Job 7:1) He is born, and then he will die! This is certain! (The exception being Enoch and Elijah, and also, those believers in Jesus Christ who are alive when He comes for His Church.)

2. The Brevity Of Your Remembrance

You will soon be forgotten. A man is remembered only a little while, and then he is forgotten. "He shall return no more to his house, neither shall his place know him anymore. Are not my days few? cease then, and let me alone, that I may take comfort a little, Before I go whence I shall not return, even to the land of darkness and the shadow of death; A land of darkness, as darkness itself; and of the shadow of death, without any order, and where the light is as darkness." (Job 7:10 & 10:20-22)

3. The Sureness Of Trouble

Life is bale full of troubles. I have also found this very true!!! "Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble. He cometh forth like a flower, and is cut down: he fleeth also as a shadow, and continueth not." (Job 14:1).

4. The Verity Of The White Throne Judgment

"And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment" (Hebrews 9:27). You will not miss this one unless YOU ARE HID in the CLEFT OF THE ROCK!

5. The Eternality And The Finality Of What You Do With Jesus Christ:

We will all be held accountable over this issue. It is a hard fact of life, my friend. Now will you take God's offer of eternal life ... purchased by His Son ... for all those who will put their trust in Him ... a thumbs down? You will everlastingly suffer the consequences!

6. That Men Never Learn From History

We learn from History That Men Never Learn From History! It is a heart problem! Men refuse to learn the "lessons" afforded by the light of HISTORY: the recorded historical events which occurred as fulfillment of Bible prophecy. Now, these are the basic truths with which we all must deal with one way or another!

7. What Should You Do?

"But what saith it? The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth, and in thy heart: that is, the word of faith, which we preach;
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.
For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him.
For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved"; [Romans 10:8-13]


Believe The BOOK!

The King James Bible

BibleThis is God's Holy WORD to you and I! Do you believe it? The A.V.1611 (or The King James Bible) is God's word PRESERVED in the English language for you and me. It came from the English Reformation. This Bible declares that: "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness." [2 Timothy 3:16] God's inspired word is preserved in the A.V.1611. The word "preserved" means maintained inspiration. "The words of the LORD are pure words: as silver tried in the furnace of earth, purified seven times. Thou shalt keep them, O LORD, thou shalt preserve them from this generation for ever." [Psalm 12:6-7] “PRESERVE.” .

Home In The Hills:

[Or New Jerusalem]


demo Everybody is going home someday. Everybody is going to their LONG HOME. When you die, you are going to go to your “long home” whether, it be in “Heaven” or in “Hell”. Do you realize that truth? “Also when they shall be afraid of that which is high, and fears shall be in the way, and the almond tree shall flourish, and the grasshopper shall be a burden, and desire shall fail: because man goeth to his long home, and the mourners go about the streets:” [Ecclesiastes 12:5]. Read More?

The Betrothing Primer

Old Paths Baptist Mission © 2011 Richard St.JamesBetrothing Primer

There are many lives that have been ruined by the last century’s adoption of the practice of dating.

The broken marriages, the broken families … are the curse of dating. God’s ideal pattern of how a person should find their mate is based on sound scriptural principles.

Do you want God’s blessing in your marriage?

The Devil's Master Plan ... Dating!

"The tradition of dating began early in this century. It began as a deceptively benign little trickle. The first fruit of it was not so visible. Some of you who are older, no doubt, never experienced the worst of the awful scars we see in the generation coming up today.

These awful scars are manifested in so many lives by the loss of virtue, purity and a clean heart. The fornications, adulteries and the resulting broken homes and marriages have attested to the witness that this big MESS all started when we left off from the Bible precept of BETROTHING.

The practice of DATING started in the destructive wake of our national departure from our roots as a people who were founded on the precepts and principles of God's word ... The Holy Bible.

What then ... Is this thing called DATING

Dating is an appointment, or series of appointments, made by the young man and the young woman ... who have an interest in each other ... which involves a planned time, and a planned place ... together, and quite often, ALONE. This is NOT WISE!

I do not have to say why. It is obvious! More than this, the dating tradition does not have marriage to that person primarily in view. The Dating Practice is a series of "tasting relationships" where the young man or young woman gives away their purity degree by degree to others. Courting, on the other hand, is an act of a man wooing in love a woman, and has, as its primary goal ... betrothal and therefore, marriage. Courting is, therefore, NOBLE in its intentions.

In contrast, Dating is rooted in selfish goals and impure thoughts, and its horrible fruit (and I say ITS HORRIBLE FRUIT) is seen in the loss of purity and in defiled consciences, which hobble the future marriages, and produce the flood of broken homes.

What begins as a trickle … ends with a flood. Dating sacrifices on the "altar of the now" what God meant to be enjoyed on the "altar of the marriage covenant." Dating seeks the immediate fleshly satisfaction. Courting has the noble goal ... a lasting beautiful marriage. Dating is throwing your faith, purity and virtue away to yours, and your children's, DESTRUCTION.

God's Master Plan ... Betrothing!


We can say this. It has its origin in The Holy Bible, and is first seen in the book of Genesis in the story of Issac and Rebekah. Betrothing has marriage in view as the primary goal. In this view also is seen, through the eye of faith, Jesus Christ, who is to be the foundation of that marriage.

The Betrothing process includes the participation of the parents in the whole of the matter. The fathers are to be especially involved, being responsible for guiding and protecting the two young persons in this most awe-inspiring and important decision in their lives. The development of the special relationship between the two young persons should be promoted in this particular order.

1. The Spiritual Relationship
The spiritual relationship to God and each other should be the first bond developed, so as to be close, as possible, to the biblical ideal of betrothing.

2. The Friendship Relationship
This is where the two begin to get to know each other, becoming emotionally bonded. This will occur at appointed times, and always before the families of all involved. (Never are they to be alone together!)

3. The Physical Relationship
The physical relationship is to be last for good reason. Two becoming one flesh is the very essence and center of the marriage bond. "Therefore shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." (Genesis 2:24)

Go to: The Most Beautiful Woman


Psalm 12 ... is the promise to us!

Purified seven times ... God's word is kept in spite of men!


Help, Lord; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men.
[Verse 1]

They speak vanity every one with his neighbour: with flattering lips and with a double heart do they speak.  [Verse 2]

The Lord shall cut off all flattering lips, and the tongue that speaketh proud things: [Verse 3]

Who have said, With our tongue will we prevail; our lips are our own: who is lord over us? [Verse 4]

 For the oppression of the poor, for the sighing of the needy, now will I arise, saith the Lord; I will set him in safety from him that puffeth at him. [Verse 5]

The words of the Lord are pure words: as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times. [Verse 6]

Thou shalt keep them, O Lord, thou shalt preserve them from this generation for ever.         [Verse 7]

The wicked walk on every side, when the vilest men are exalted. [Verse 8]